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Confession: My boyfriend left because I was too demanding

Today's confession was penned by a woman whose boyfriend left her because she was too demanding, forcing him to change job twice, to pick her up from work every day, and insisting on spending time together on her off days.

Here is her confession in full:

"Hi there! I want to confess about how I lost my boyfriend because of how demanding and dominating I was, without noticing that I was already stepping on his pride. And now, I'm left with regret and I realise that I don't want to lose him.

"We met at work last year and everyone at work used to teased him because he was already eyeing me but he was too shy to talk to me.

"Then one afternoon he asked me out on a date, and my answer was 'I don't date colleagues... But we can go out for lunch with other colleagues.

"It all started there, lunch and texting and then picking me up from work every night to my house. I actually don't know what happened to me as I always said that I would only date my someone from my own race or a guy who speaks my mother-tongue as it is easier to communicate, but for him my boundaries crashed.

"I started to like him because he is a very nice and a cute guy and he would always pick me up from work to send me home, which was cool for me and was the first time a guy did something like that for me.

"He would carry my things and be very gentlemanly towards me. And it all happened so fast that one night, instead of telling him to just be friends, I told him that I liked him too and then we became an item that night.

"I started to like him because we enjoy playing with kids and interacting with new people that we just met.

"Fast forward some time, after being together a while I noticed, well we both noticed that I was so moody and broke up with him almost every month we were together.

"I was so emotional and he used to spoil me a lot like every night must pick me up, every off day must be together, must help me do this and that, carry this and that.

"I was so dominant in our relationship and I demanded so much of his time and attention that he struggled in having a stable job because I asked him to move to another workplace as I didn't want to date a colleague.

"And when he got a new job, I demanded more time to be with him so he had to look for another job, and then I always nagged at him through text that he didn't have a stable job.

"Yeah! I know I've been so mean and selfish and unfair to him. I was behaving like a goddess yet he loved me so much and even ask me many times to marry him and move in with him but I always said no.

"And I would break up with him for no good reason at all. But he always held me back and told me that he loved me so much and that he would give me a bright future.

"I actually love him a lot too but I'll just go crazy and think crazy thoughts most of the time which is why I said stupid things without even thinking them through. And then the next day I would say sorry for saying those stupid things.

"One night, he just snapped and then told me he didn't love me anymore and that it was better for us to just be friends.

"I went to his house the next day but his words were firm that he didn't love me anymore. It's because of all my selfishness that he just woke up one day and said all his love for me was gone.

"Slowly it had faded away. I cried that whole day in front of him, begging him to give me another chance. He consoled me but said he just wanted us to be friends. And again he said that he doesn't love me anymore.

"I felt so depressed and I cannot move on. I still think of him and still text him, telling him I want him back and that I still love him and that I'm willing to change for him.

"I won't give up on him, I have faith that we can be together again. I'm giving him some space and time for himself for now. I won't give up and I'll never lose hope.

"I love you so much."


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readers' comments
hey.... when this kind of things happen to the oppisit sex.... most of you ladies will say... a lepoard will never change its spot... what happen now?...double standard....:mad::eek::p:D

gee.... seem like today im looking for trouble.....kidding kidding... i take back my words....:o:D
Posted by 158X128kg on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 17:47 PM
Its logical that the bf left her .... use 2 jobs in exchange for bang bang inside her ***** and get her sing his karaoke .... not a bad deal for him when he's still young .... :p :D

So those guys who are thinking of suicides and in depression over lost love ... plz wake up and learn from him ... suicide and die is the most stupid thing that a man DO ... ;)
Posted by Small Fly on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 17:44 PM
The number is that of a ah long?
Posted by old_dilbert on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 17:25 PM

Have anybody called you by the way? :D
Posted by mystrawberry on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 17:23 PM


How you do that with a mobile number??
Posted by renyeo on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 16:33 PM
http://forums.asiaone.com/search.php?searchid=6627787

Has anyone call you yet? :D
Posted by mikuhatsune on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 16:18 PM


I do all job .. not just 3rd job .. life job , dead job, live job .. any job as long there is a Sun Ho , Hole, Beach and wind.
Posted by jopiemalay on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 16:15 PM
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Posted by jopiemalay on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 16:13 PM
The moral of the story - some woman likes boy friend to have potential. But they themself must also potential. Else demanding also no use.
Posted by Hehehehaha on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 13:26 PM
Leopard can never change it's spots, you will regret probably the rest of your life, but you will get over, one day. If you do not mend your attitude and temper, the next person who comes along, same thing will happen. If you have not changed abit, then you are not ready for any relationship.

He may be the best guy to you for the rest of your life, but truth is no one knows because something/someone you can't have will always be the best.
Posted by IndignantFemale on Mon, 29 Apr 2013 at 13:20 PM

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