Sex Saboteur #3: A juggling act
Women’s brains are naturally more active than men’s, even during sex, so you might find it hard to focus on the act if you’re thinking about work or worrying about the kids.

Solution: Dr Lee suggests penning down everything you need to do the next day.

While it takes some practice to let go mentally, it gets easier over time. It’s all about compartmentalising.

“When engaging in sex, stay in your body instead of your mind by focusing on your breathing. Close your eyes and focus on the sensations running through your body triggered by his touch. Look into your partner’s eyes, observe his breathing and imagine the sensations he's feeling. With better awareness of your partner’s body, as well as your own, your relationship can be strengthened and sexual excitement heightened,” she adds.

Sex Saboteur #4: Routine, routine, routine
You’re so used to each other now so sex has become predictable and boring.

Solution: Dr Lee suggests doing this exercise with him: List three ways to make sex better for you, then list three things you would like your partner to do to make sex better for you. Share your lists and see what's doable and consider starting with the easiest one first.