I AM a 24-year-old student. I am currently having trouble with my love life. Two years ago, I met K. She is a year younger than me. It was love at first sight.

We communicated with each other frequently for a few months. Then I asked her if she would be interested to be my girlfriend but she rejected me politely. After that, we rarely spoke as I felt shy and awkward, since she knew I was into her. Despite that, I still tried to start a conversation every time I met her. The relationship between us has remained cold till today, even though I still have a big crush on her.

A few months ago, I started communicating with J, who is two years my junior, on Facebook. I fell for J, who I think may be interested in becoming my girlfriend, but cannot forget K and still feel deeply for her.

I know people always say “follow your heart”. My problem is that it says stay with K but my head and a few of my friends tell me to forget her because we haven’t communicated for seven to eight months now. I understand their logic but still wonder what I should do. Try to get back with K or just continue to interact with J and hope she accepts me in the near future. Please tell me what to do.

O.G

IF you believe that you have fallen for J, then why are you still thinking of K? Until you are sure about your heart, why give up on K so easily?

It is never the best option falling for a girl when you still pine for another. Or perhaps you find K a challenge since she seems determined to be out of reach. Ego will guide you to J as she is sweet and willing. Friends will encourage a positive relationship because they do not want to see you miserable and lonely.

At this point in time, you are still a susceptible male who has yet to find the right partner. So concentrate on your studies, think about your career and patiently wait for love. Explore a few more relationships before you decide on the right person to share your life.