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Mum at 43: I was desperate for my baby No. 2
by Benita Aw Yeong

She was desperate to get pregnant.

So desperate that she went through multiple surgeries, received rounds of hormonal medication to make sure she ovulated and put herself through acupuncture, despite being terrified of needles.

Mrs Joyce Padfield's biological clock was ticking frantically as her 40th birthday approached. The Singaporean is married to 55-year-old Bill Padfield, who is a permanent resident here.

She yearned badly for a second child, despite already having a seven-year-old son.

"My mother asked me at some point, 'Why don't you just give up? You already have one healthy child.' But I felt like I didn't want to look back and regret because I didn't try my best.

"I always planned to have two children," she explains.

Their firstborn came easily, having been conceived just five months into the marriage.

"I knew eventually I wanted another one, but after that I was just busy carving out a career, and time went by," says the housewife, who used to be a banker specialising in wealth management.

"I just wanted to have another child... be it naturally or artificially, I would have done whatever it took."

She first underwent surgery after being diagnosed with adenomysis, which occurs when endometrial tissue, which normally lines the uterus, exists within and grows into the muscular wall of the uterus.

Then came months of hormonal treatment to help the womb heal faster, so she could get pregnant quickly.

"It made me irritable. My husband and friends hated me because I was being such a nasty person," Mrs Padfield says.

She says it in a self-deprecating manner, laughing as she recalls those days. But it is clear that the anguish run deep.

She recalls her joy in April 2010, when she discovered she was pregnant. But just two months later, she was plunged into despair when she lost the baby.

Last March, she got pregnant again, but lost the child again six weeks later.

Read the full story here.

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This shows that your sperm is stronger than any 61yo :D
Posted by coolzone on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 12:53 PM

Yesterday i released 3 bouts on my PRCs gf belly area. I would say its very thick, whitish and sticky, better than glue.:D
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 12:41 PM

Must be made of cement :eek:
Posted by coolzone on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 12:39 PM
My sperms is the strongest, the production levels is better than any 16 year old.
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 12:33 PM
EEeee ... 2 men sharing their sperms between themselves ... very disgusting siah ... :eek::confused::rolleyes:

Plz dont pollute this forum thank you!

Posted by Small Fly on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 12:30 PM
a cougar spg. :rolleyes:
Posted by A_Commoner on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 11:41 AM
She can go for second-hand baby.
Posted by coolzone on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 10:36 AM
Uncle will be glad to help :D
Don't know if he still have enough tadpoles to donate :D
Posted by maipenrai on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 10:33 AM

Why are you keeping my sperms and give yours to her???!:eek:

You keeping the BEST for yourself!:eek::D

Don't have to ok. I can give you more if you ask for it.:D
Posted by goondoon on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 09:39 AM

Of course lah...I take the tube, then throw away first mah, show her the clean tube lah....then...sorry, cannot tell you anymore....kekekeke:D:p
Posted by hfourhappy on Fri, 17 May 2013 at 09:32 AM


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