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Don't be alone this National Day
by Skilldo

For single guys out there, the upcoming long weekend courtesy of National Day is a perfect excuse to fill up your social calendar.

No matter how you look at it, women will be getting out of their homes and making their way to the city - whether it is to head to the National Day Parade, or just to hang out and shop.

Your 'mission', if you choose to take it, is to situate yourself in crowded places, hours before the fireworks are about to begin. (Hint: Head to the malls, the MRT stations, or open spaces as they wait for night to fall to enjoy the parade in the sky)

When you spot a girl, or a group of them whom you may be interested to talk to, open the conversation with this: "Hi, I'm running out of ideas, so you might be able to help. Other
than boring Marina, where do you think is the best place to catch the fireworks tonight?"

Get the girls' response, build on it, and let the conversation flow.

That's it. Stick to this approach line and repeat it with other girls if you don't wish to rack your brains on what to say.

One more point - the way you start your conversation can make or break your chance.

Talk to the girls in a fun and casual manner, as though you have been asking lots of other people the same question that day.

Create conversations and make the day count.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

readers' comments
groupie usually difficult to approach, because peoples alreadhy in the group, not only that, during national, peoples already have plan, in other words, what can you bring onto the table so that others will include you, even ang mo also got no chance, you need to appeal to other needs, if a girl by herself and not on occasion like this, i think we have a better chance, on the other hand, chrismast will be a better day to use the tactic recommended by skildo, after all the more the merrier

but before all that, you need to look good , if not you got to have that confident look and able to talk to strangers comfortably without feeling awkward, i talk to any girls that i never met, even for the first time, they are absolutely comfortable to carry on the conversation and that's a good .....
Posted by jameslee58 on Mon, 9 Aug 2010 at 19:31 PM
Yeah great advice, r u kidding? Try & approach a gaggle of young girls in the recommended way, they'll think u r a pervert or a lonely freako. What d'ya think this is place is? Europe, US? Another load of crock....!
Posted by chieftain on Mon, 9 Aug 2010 at 19:10 PM
Skildo sure has good intentions to help out the lonely single guy, but this suggestions seem a bit serving pork at a bar mitzvah (or roast pick at a muslim wedding). I ask the reader to indulge in some mental imagery.

Scenario: A lone Singaporean man approaches a lone Singaporean woman out on her own to watch National Day fireworks. OK, maybe in the US somewhere (but even unlikely there) but I just don't see single women out on their own very often (ok, shopping perhaps).

Scenario: A lone Singaporean man approaches a group of women, some assumed to be single, out for a night of National Day festivities. The lone man seems a bit out of place and could be deemed a loser no matter how good he looks or presentable he may be. His erudition must explain why he is alone .....
Posted by tatyyuen on Mon, 9 Aug 2010 at 16:42 PM

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