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The one big no-no when it comes to dating women
by Skilldo

You've probably heard of many dos and don'ts when it comes to dating.

But there is one "don't" that does not get much coverage.

Here it is - Don't fall into the trap of thinking that your date is doing you a favour by going out with you. Neither should you feel you're so 'lucky' to be able to bring her out for a movie/dinner/date.

Because if you continue down this line of thought, you will never be able to be at your best in your endeavours to attract your potential partner.

Why not think of it this way? It is her lucky day to be able to go on a date with you.

Sounds like what a male chauvinist pig would say? Not at all.

When a guy believes that it's his fortune to nab the girl on a date, it automatically sets the stage for him to want to try very hard to impress her during the date.

He will then spend the entire date on convincing the girl to like him.

Unfortunately, the girl will take his actions to mean that he is just one of those guys who 'try too hard'.

And this is as good as dashing any more chances to meet up with her again.

But when you flip things around and believe that you're doing a favour to the girl by going out with her, it allows you to be at your most powerfully attractive self.

You relax and are at ease with her, and get rid of any traces of desperation.

After all, you're most attractive when you're relaxed.

So, imprint this into your brain - you're really doing your date a favour by going out with her.

How do you really know you're doing her a favour, you ask?

Let me give you four points to ponder:

1) The girl that you're out on a date with has definitely been out on dates with other guys before.

2) She's out with you now because all the other guys before you did not manage to impress her.

3) If you did not seem attractive enough to her during the date, she will continue her 'long and hard search for love' by going out with other guys, until she finds that one that she is most attracted to.

4) So, please just do her a favour. Give her reason to find you attractive and end her dating misery.

It's true, but the ladies won't admit it - all women go on dates to search for the man who can make them experience feelings of attraction.

Help the women end their search.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

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