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If hubby can cheat... So can I
by Maureen Koh

Two can play the game.

"If my husband can cheat on me, why can't I do the same to him?" declares one tai-tai who readily admits to paying for the company of toyboys.

And by cheating on him, she feels "the power of still being in control".

It's late Friday night and 44-year-old Madam Nancy Cheong is happily lapping up the attention from four young men at an all-male hosts club on Orchard Road.

Enjoying the same pampering are two other friends, each with her own man.

Says Madam Cheong: "I don't see why I can't do it."

This reporter first met Madam Cheong three years ago at a KTV-like club catering to women where young, good-looking men sing, dance and cuddle with their female customers.

She had gone to the club out of frustration and loneliness because of her businessman-husband's frequent trips overseas.

She knows that her husband has a string of lovers here and in China.

Madam Cheong and her husband have a teenage daughter, who is studying in Perth.

Madam Cheong's visits to such clubs have become more regular since her husband found out about her secret a year ago.

She says with a sneer: "At first, he said he was so hurt because I had betrayed our sacred marriage vows.

"I laughed at him and told him, 'look, you are the one who has been sleeping around'."

Madam Cheong claims that her husband "transformed from being hurt to being angry".

She recalls: "He took a golf club and swung it angrily around, breaking things in the home - our wine bottles, the antiques.

"I just stood there and laughed."

When Madam Cheong's husband finally stopped, he threatened to file for a divorce.

She says: "I told him to go ahead but I also warned him that I was going to squeeze as much money as I could from him for alimony and maintenance."

That silenced the businessman.

"I knew that would happen. He wouldn't want to share his fortune with me."

When contacted, Madam Cheong's husband admitted that her accusations were true, but declined to comment further.

While men are the usual suspects when it comes to cheating, a global sexual well-being survey commissioned by condom manufacturer Durex last year revealed that women are just as likely to cheat. They just have different reasons.

The survey, which polled 506 Singaporeans, found that 19 per cent of women were unfaithful to their partners.

While it's the same percentage for men, the difference lies in that the men are likely to be either having casual sex or paying for it, while the women tend to take on longer-term partners.

With her husband now in the know, Madam Cheong says she no longer bothers to come up with excuses when she goes hunting for men.

"He does it. I do it. We keep our affairs outside of the family home - that's what straying means to me," she says.

"We made a pact to keep it out of there."

When her daughter is back in Singapore on vacation, they "go out and do things together as a family".

When she is needed, she plays the role of a loving wife and attends business events with her husband.

Why bother with such a sham marriage? "It's not a sham, it's a convenient arrangement.

"We (she and her husband) love the perfect platform that our marriage provides in keeping us from having to commit to another relationship," she says.

But a more rational reason is that they want their daughter to first graduate.

Says Madam Cheong: "It's unfair to dump this fiasco on our only child.

"We want her to live happily, graduate and get a job, and maybe one day, when she has settled down, we will break the news to her."

By then, she adds: "Maybe we'd be too old to be playing the field and we may end up wanting to live with each other all over again."

This article was first published in The New Paper.

'I made him confess to our child'
Call me a gold-digger, I don't care
Why men stray
Women who stayed with the strayers

 

 

 

 

readers' comments


Pls do not disturb my xiao mei hor.
She is only 18 yrs old hor.
And hers boob is due to daily push-up hor.
Posted by sia.cheo on Sun, 26 Feb 2012 at 23:25 PM

51? Your age? Nice pair of boobs, babe ;)
Posted by mystrawberry on Sun, 26 Feb 2012 at 21:47 PM


How about the number 51 or could be surprised to you that the number change to 18+?????

Anyway, thank you.
We appreciate your kindness.

Take care.
Posted by igodwhatuwant on Sun, 26 Feb 2012 at 10:52 AM

No lah. Today I like the number 88 so I am older than you. Come, call Auntie Strawberry (pinch your cheeks) :D
Posted by mystrawberry on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 11:19 AM
How sad... this women had degraded herself to paying *****.....
Posted by leechron on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 11:18 AM


No. I am 82, TP is 95, and you, 18.
Posted by smickno on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 11:16 AM
Goodness the cat is out of the bag! You're 11!!! :D
Posted by mystrawberry on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 11:12 AM


I have no doubt you are at least 21 years old. :p
Posted by smickno on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 11:10 AM

Xiao Lee,
I am glad that evetually, you can come to senses that I am always right.
Promise you that I will teach & train you to be an upright man.
To start off, I will give you an example of crooks' behaviour & lopholes to spot at.
1) A crook will start off with a evil intention.
2) He/she will tell first lie and then used another lie to cover the first one. Eventually, he will mastered the skill of telling lies automatically in his/her daily life.
3) Thru yrs of telling lies experiences , by trial and error, they could easily ply on those "sure-maka" innocents without being exposed.
4) It will then became a habitual to crook to cheat on his/her spouses without feeling a slight guilt nor shame. Forevever, they betray their party, company, colleagues, .....
Posted by lao.leeky on Wed, 22 Feb 2012 at 00:37 AM
You huh, really a funny chap. Save the age part, there's no way that I am going to fantasies him with you. You're at least double his age sweetie not 10!

Agreed with your remaining post ... both hands :D
Posted by mystrawberry on Tue, 21 Feb 2012 at 22:43 PM

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