Shortly after, Eric contacted me over Facebook. He was furious that I had spoken to his mother "behind his back". He accused me of meddling. "If you're so free, why don't you do something more meaningful with your life?", he taunted.

Hurt, I suggested that he seek counselling. He lashed back, saying I was the "same old Molly" who always assumed that he needed help.

That was the last straw. I was livid. I sent him a final message, wishing him well, adding that it was a "pity" he'd let a misunderstanding ruin our friendship. And so, Eric finally slipped out of my life.

I concentrated on my new job to move on. I knew I'd never see the $17,000 I had lent him, but I told myself that the money could be earned again - I just had to work harder.

I picked up valuable lessons from my time with Eric: always get to know a guy better before entering a relationship with him. And be on guard for people who change easily.

I'll never get back with Eric even if he mends his ways. He's too unpredictable, too temperamental, and can't be there for me emotionally. I know I deserve someone better.

There's a postscript to all this. After 10 months of silence, Eric suddenly sent me a string of SMSes last October. He apologised for not staying in touch, adding that he was close to being declared bankrupt as he couldn't service his debts. He was living with a new girlfriend and barely getting by.

"I feel like ending my life... I was this close to snatching a woman's purse on the street earlier," he lamented.

He asked if I could lend him $1,000. But I wasn't falling for it again. I told him point-blank that I was still upset with him and was numb to his pleas.

"All I can wish for you is the best," I added. He never replied.

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