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Get her to give you her number without fuss
by Skildo

Ever wondered how some men effortlessly get women to leave behind their contact numbers?

There is no trick, you just need to ask differently.

If you inspect how these men do it, it's almost as if they NEVER ask women easy-to-turn-down phrases, such as,  "Can I have your number?" or "Would you like to go out this Friday?"

In fact, these questions often push the 'hard to get' button in ladies. Their inner guard goes up just like that.

Instead, these men do it by LEADING the woman with their conversation.

The best way to describe it is that such men use "Casual Command."

It's a subtle way of leading women without appearing like you're asking for her approval.

As an example of "casually commanding" the situation- When you approach a girl and chat with her, you can keep in contact with her by saying: "Hey, I've got to run off now. But we'll exchange numbers now so that we can continue our chat next time."

You are really NOT asking for her number. You come across as being casual, where you don't gain or lose anything, with or without her number.

Instead you're leading the situation. (Incidentally, women like men who project such abilities).

Or if you're asking a lady out over the phone, place a Casual Command in your sentence, such as, "I'm going to Suntec to catch the IT show this Saturday. After that, I'll be looking for a gift for a friend. Tell you what, come along and be my gift-choosing assistant."

Modify it for your own use. The essence of it is - you're laid back but also have a DIRECTION that she can follow at the same time.

I can personally vouch that the  success rate of asking women out with such an approach is HIGHER than a more direct invitation to date her.

As the term "Casual Command" suggests:
- it is "casual" (it's totally stress-less as you don't place a lot of importance over getting her out)
- and it is a command (it shows that you're a man of direction. You lead).

See the results for yourself.

About the writer:
Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at

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