A recent news report on how perverts aboard public transportation get away with their misdeed prompted a STOMPer to write in and share her ordeal.
Earlier, on Mar 13, my paper carried an article, Sexually harassed, but more did nothing, where 2 in 5 respondents in an NTU survey said they were pestered by perverts while they were travelling aboard public transportation in Singapore.
This opened DC's wounds, and she wrote in to share her experiences, and she also calls out for stronger measures to be taken against such perpetrators.
In her email to STOMP, she said:
"In a crowded MRT train, I noticed an uncle kept ogling at me and my girlfriend for very long. I felt irritated and stared at him yet it didn’t stop his behavior. So I flashed my phone at him, pretending to take photo of him.
"It triggered his anger and got his friend to corner us while he rushed to the control station to make a complaint and called the police.
"He insulted me rudely in public and wanted to sue me for taking his picture.
"He is guilty of ogling yet he pushed me the blame that I took his picture for my own pleasure.
"Police filed as domestic case to appease both parties.
"It’s not the 1st time I encountered such incident. Men can ogle freely but instead reported the victim to police causing, thus causing embarrassment to the victim. In the end, I can only suffer in silence of being humiliated in public.
"Years ago, I was tanning in the East Coast beach with my sister and came alone a perpetrator hiding behind a tree to ogle at us for a long time, then hovered around us and had his eyes fixed on us.
"We felt extremely uneasy and scolded him to go away.
"A while later 2 policemen came and said someone informed the police that two girls are tanning naked at the beach! (We were in bikinis) Soon, a crowd gathered near us, and this embarrassed us thoroughly as the police questioned us.
"These perpetrators should be punished and not get away scot-free. Although in My Paper today’s article encouraged woman to speak up when they are been sexually harassed, the result will end up ugly for the victims in my case."
This article was first published in STOMP.
Put yourself in a woman's shoes.
How would you feel, knowing someone is undressing you in his mind, thinking unwholesome thoughts about you, maybe taking those same thoughts back home to the loo?
Would you not feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable?
And although not physically harrassing, would you not consider this emotionally and psychological harrassing?
Certainly it would be virtually impossible to enforce laws to protect women from wandering minds, as the mind is, the only place no external force can ever infringe upon.
However society can do its part by NOT condoning actions of oogling uncles as you lot have done.
Perhaps then women would feel safer taking public transport .....
And by suntanning in bikinis on the beach, you and your friend are inviting attention from men. You asked for it - you slut!
if a white man ogling at you, you would say "come and F**UC**K ME"