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Mon, Jun 15, 2009
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Alimony: Some men don't pay out of spite
by Sujin Thomas & Jessica Lim

A DIVORCED businessman, reminded by a Family Court judge that he could be jailed for failing to pay maintenance to his former wife, promptly reached into his pocket and pulled out a wad of $50 notes.
He was then three months - $1,200 in total - behind in his payments to her.

Divorce lawyer Malathi Das recalled this case from some years ago as an example of a former spouse who deliberately refused to pay maintenance even though he could well afford to.

She said: 'This unwillingness to pay maintenance is a perennial problem, and enforcement can be a tedious process for the ex-wife.'

Though the number of applications for enforcements has fallen, the problem is serious enough that the Minister for Community Development, Youth and Sports Vivian Balakrishnan proposed in Parliament last month the setting up of a 'matrimonial credit bureau', which would make marital history records available so divorcees' subsequent spouses can do background checks on them.

In 2006, the number of such applications made to the Family Court was 4,073.

Last year, the figure fell to 3,266.

Lawyers put the decline down to a number of factors, including the possibility that women are not lodging complaints because they know it can be a difficult process.

They added, however, that it could be that more people are complying with maintenance orders.

On Monday, the Singapore Council of Women's Organisations suggested setting up a state agency to collect these maintenance payments.

Penalties for defaults could include being named on a blacklist maintained by the bureau, it said.

Lawyers say that a number of former spouses default for genuine reasons, such as unemployment, pay cuts and retrenchment, but some do not pay up purely out of spite.

While penalties such as fines and possible jail terms are in place, defaulters play on the chance that their former wives will not pursue the matter.

Former wives who decide to apply for enforcement have to take leave from their day jobs, sometimes to the dismay of their employers, and incur legal costs which may exceed the amount of maintenance they are seeking.

Ms Das said she normally advises clients to lodge a complaint at the Family Court themselves as a first step in getting an enforcement order - as opposed to getting their lawyer to do this for them - to save on legal fees.

In many instances, unemployed divorcees who get custody of the children depend a lot on the money to make ends meet on a daily basis.

Mr Yap Teong Liang, who chairs the Family Law Practice Committee of the Law Society of Singapore, said: 'Maintenance may be postponed, but these women's daily expenses cannot be.'

Defaults on maintenance payments end up having a 'knock-on effect' in that the women run up late-payment charges when they are late in paying their bills.

But a 31-year-old divorcee who gave his name only as Azman is adamant that he is justified in not paying up his $200 every month. The cleaner, who divorced his wife in January and has not paid her maintenance for two months, called her an irresponsible parent who leaves the care for her children to someone else.

'It is not worth giving her the money. I feel she doesn't deserve it.'

This article was first published in The Straits Times.

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readers' comments
Men should not marry at all. Then no alimoney payments.

We all know the family courts are biased against men. Even the gov is biased against men. Why bother to produce baby for gov when the gov treats males badly after that?
Posted by cylon6 on Sat, 13 Jun 2009 at 20:48 PM


Alimony is an outright scam ... pls abolish it ... :mad:
Posted by Twister2 on Sat, 13 Jun 2009 at 15:59 PM


Each case would be heard on a case by case basis right? The best thing is to ask for legal advice. I think you'll find a list of free legal clinics here:
http://www.lawsociety.org.sg/probono/community_legal_clinic.aspx
Posted by lightasacloud on Fri, 12 Jun 2009 at 15:13 PM
First: I support the motion that alimony must be case to case and also should protect man when their cha-bor "makan outside". Woman who flirt and get caught outside must pay alimony to the "green-hat" man. This must be made a common law.

2nd: Alimony is not a lifetime bank account (not retrenchment package yeah), it should only take care of minimum living standard for the 'woman', not the children. Woman who asked for alimony to cover spa, facial treatment, car, overseas trip....should be gun down. Should base on common living standard and she must also work to survive to compliment the alimony package.

for the children, it should be based on MCD, MOE, MOH, MHA doctrines for children up-bringing and the payer must be punished if he/she cannot make it.

I never sympathized the woman, but I think THE CHILD .....
Posted by Little_GreenDOT on Fri, 12 Jun 2009 at 15:00 PM
I used to go to Family Court to file against him, after 4-5 times,(the last I wrote a letter to the judge to help reinforce by direct deduct from his salary)the judge reprimanded him. Only then, he paid up evey month, if not on time, still will pay all in arrears.

He even tried to be funny one time by saying he's out of job, and won't find a job and no need to pay etc. I told him by all means go tell the judge.(we were at the court then when i filed against his not paying)Only after some thinking, he asked me aside to talk again and agreed to pay all.

Yes, I had to apply half day leave as it would take up whole morning of waiting etc. Since 10 years ago, I had wished the court would come up .....
Posted by SYTeoTammie on Fri, 12 Jun 2009 at 12:13 PM
Want to ask if divorce because of wife having affair do men need to paid any Alimony to wife?
If wife leaves he husband and children and ran away then when file divorce also need to pay Alimony when the wife come back?
Then who will be protect for men when they need to support children and they life expenses?

When men having money do not mean they need to pay because not saving how to survive?how to fund they children to school or poly or university?as know wife dump the children to they husband (single father)who will protect? Some cases divorce not because of the husband problem wife also will causing issues
Posted by samtkt2000 on Fri, 12 Jun 2009 at 09:04 AM

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