The Tip Take control of your sex life: Make the first move; don’t just wait for him to initiate sex. When a woman takes charge, her bold display of power turns him on and may increase her own libido as well.

From The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Sexual Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long by Lou Paget, $30.90, from Borders

The tip Reprise the passion of teenage love in your marriage. Marriage shouldn’t sound the death knell of sexual passion and fun; it should give you the liberty to be more adventurous in the bedroom. So don’t be uncomfortable with sexuality just because you’ve gotten hitched or popped a couple of kids.
From Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, $23, from Kinokuniya

The tip Tell him what you want. Communication is vital, both inside and outside the bedroom. Don’t wait for the urge to hit or it might never happen. List down the things that make sex great and plan for it every other day or at least once a week. Couples who plan for sex have more of it and tend to want more of it.
From Real Sex for Real Women: Intimacy, Pleasure & Sexual Wellbeing by Laura Berman, $45.95, from Borders

The tip Master the strokes and combinations. There’s nothing wrong with performing the same winning technique, but experimentation adds that element of surprise and spontaneity. It also helps you to discover what makes your man tick. Keep a consistent rhythm and don’t rush through the act.
From The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Violet Blue, $32.95, from Borders

The tip Great sex requires variety. So take your time with each other, let go of your inhibitions and enjoy the moment. This book lists everything you need for a night of passion – great foreplay ideas and a visual guide to inspire better and more imaginative sex.
From 1001 Nights of Passion and Pleasure by Eleanor McKenzie & Linda Sonntag, $25.68, from Harris

The tip Be more self-indulgent, stop negative thoughts and allow for role-play. This book coaches you on the ins-and-outs of having rewarding but quick sex.
From The Art of the Quickie by Joel D. Block, $40.95, from Borders

Get the March 2010 issue of Simply Her for more tips to better sex. Simply Her, published by SPH Magazines is available at all newsstands now. Madeline Lin is a features writer with Simply Her magazine by SPH Magazines. Check out more stories at Simply Her online, www.simplyher.com.sg.