I’M a college student in my 20s. I started a relationship with K in March and we broke up in May. We had been very happy together and would call or SMS every day to talk about every thing. We also used to fight but easily made up.
Suddenly there were fewer texts and calls from him. It felt weird but I loved him and was confident he wouldn’t leave me. Then he stopped altogether and wouldn’t even reply to my texts. There had been no fight or misunderstanding so I wondered what I could have done wrong. He never bothered to explain at all. In the end, I made up my mind to break up with him and sent him an SMS to say that we should just be happy with our own life.
Recently, M approached me and told me that he loves me a lot. We are friends and he used to SMS and call me often although I never replied. He was really concerned about me. I told him I had just broken up and didn’t want to commit to a relationship again. He said he was willing to wait for me.
M is exactly how I want my dream guy to be. But now, suddenly K texted me to find out if we could get back together. I called him and told him that I didn’t feel the same way about him anymore but I actually miss K. I’m really confused and don’t know whether to accept M’s love or to get back with K! Help me please....
Confused Girl
WHY bother with a guy who gave you the flip without a word or explanation? If K had really cared about you, he would not have hurt you with cold, indifferent silence.
However, if you still think that M is not the right guy for you, do not compromise your heart. Give this relationship some time to develop and be fair to the guy. He has been the sweet, understanding bloke who was prepared to wait until you are ready. As long as your heart and mind is still with K, then you should not give M false hopes.
Love is not a weighing scale. You cannot really measure if you love more or less. There will always be compromises, fights and arguments. But if K had loved you, he would not have behaved like the jerk he was. M seems more sincere and steadfast, a better man on all counts.
Take it easy at this point. Enjoy being romanced by M, give him the chance to show you if he too can cause your heart to beat faster. Sometimes, it’s the quiet moments you share that are more meaningful than words and promises. If you can sleep better just knowing that the man will always be there for you, without even hearing his voice as the last note in your ears, then isn’t love more tender and secure?