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My boyfriend's shocking double life
by Jeanne Tai

Molly*, 25, an administrator, thought she'd found The One – until he walked out on her without a word. When she tracked him down months later, she discovered his alarming new lifestyle. She tells Jeanne Tai her story.

*All names have been changed to protect their identities.

I still remember how I met Eric, a co-worker, at a company event almost two years ago. He was handsome, athletic and boasted a ripped, gym-honed body.

"You've got the physique of a sports instructor," I told him playfully. Eric was flattered and we started chatting.

We were both in the civil service, but had never met as we were in separate branches. After our first meeting, we SMSed and e-mailed each other.

A fortnight later, we went on our first date. He was eight years older and certainly knew how to impress a girl.

Once, while we were exploring the Marina Bay Sands Skypark, he found me hotel bath towels after I said I felt chilly. When I was sick, he would call to check on me three times a day and bring me medicine and nourishing drinks. Being outdoorsy, we sometimes jogged together.

Once, I felt faint as we scaled a steep hill. I fell into his arms, quite literally, as he caught me.

As he fussed over me, he blamed himself for not being more attentive. I recall being on the verge of blacking out, all the while thinking, "Wow, what a guy."

Within a month, we were officially an item.

A personality change

The first couple of months with Eric were bliss. We would meet almost every day after work. We enjoyed working out together or going for a run.

Things progressed quickly. Eric started talking about our future together, suggesting that we get married within two years.

I was introduced to his family - he was Malaysian, and his family members lived across the Causeway.

I began staying over some nights at Eric's rented apartment here. But as quickly as it started, our fairy tale started to unravel.

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Short for H(IV) lor :D
Posted by maipenrai on Tue, 16 Apr 2013 at 14:11 PM

dont worry, money will always pass from one hand to another. just be happy. do whatever one is happy with. people like her bf always take taxis and pass the money to cabbies who pass the money to taxi company which pass the money to govt who pass the money back to the u see, money just goes around. ;)
Posted by sghunk888 on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 22:44 PM
She ought not to have loan him any monies.... Not wise at all...

Using her heart to decide than her head...

The ex was obviously a liar & a manipulator....

Posted by Tsunamiw4ve on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 22:22 PM

i also thought gay haha :D
Posted by jiaoxiaolinglong on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 21:58 PM

Simi si H4??:o:p
Posted by itangg12 on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 21:37 PM
Thot her bf gay and kana H4!
Posted by maipenrai on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 21:17 PM
She thinks that her relationship is normal and is working her best on it (showing patience, sending money to help, give free time to her boyfriend to work things out).

I'm sure many guys have experienced something similar : They meet a greedy girl, as their first girlfriend, spend lots money on her and is finally dumped with complicated reasons. This is part of growing up.
Posted by mikuhatsune on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 18:21 PM
She tot she found chemistry but discovered a prick.

Money and color gone.
Posted by sock_min on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 18:19 PM
This type of woman should work for charitable organizations to help all the poor, needy and abandoned.
Posted by mystrawberry on Mon, 15 Apr 2013 at 18:09 PM


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