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No sex in 12 years but still madly in love
by Maureen Koh

This married couple say they have not had sex for 12 years. Yet they say they are still "madly in love" and devoted to each other.

Madam Ng Yu Yan, 45, explains that the desires and urges gradually faded away after she had her third child. She and husband Bernard Tay, 46, have two sons, 18 and 16, and a daughter, 13.

Madam Ng insists that sex is not an integral part of being married. "Once you have children, your priorities will definitely shift, and you find that everything you do centres around the young ones," says the property agent.

Mr Tay, a site foreman, agrees: "We are both usually very tired by the time we come home, have our meals and then sit down to spend quality time with the kids.

"By the time we hit the bed when they have gone to sleep, both of us are already half dead."

And since the children came along, their vacations have always been a big family affair.

"I think at most, the only time we spend in each other's company is during the journey from our home to my husband's office where I drop him off," says Madam Ng.

She laughs before saying that "the only form of intimacy is probably just a kiss".

Experts here tell The New Paper on Sunday that couples like the Tays are in the minority.

For most, a lack of sex could indicate bigger problems.

Like the Tays, a British couple, Charlotte and Chris Everiss, say they don't have sex.

They shared their story with The Daily Mail newspaper last week, attracting more than 700 comments within a day.

Most evenings, with their little girl safely tucked in bed, the couple enjoy a kiss and a cuddle on the sofa in front of the television.

Both insist that their 10-year marriage, which followed a two-year courtship after meeting on a dating website, is stronger than most. The relatively young couple haven't had sex in two years.

Read the full story here.

6 sex drive killers

The things (and the things that you do) that can kill your mood for sex.

You’d never guess that bedroom clutter and watching sad movies could affect your desire – or your hubby’s – for sex. But they can!

Click on the thumbnails to find out more.

(Source: Simpler Her, March 2013; Photos: TNP, ST, Nuyou)

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readers' comments
Guess the problems also lies with Mdm Ng's hubby .... he must be those studio type of man who didnt upgrade his skills from AVs and porns to keep Mdm Ng sexually aroused and interested in enjoying the high level of love and intimacy in sex other than doing it purely for baby-making .... negative example that I must bear in mind not to commit such mistakes ... :p :D

做爱做爱, 越做越爱! .... this is the only way to keep maintain a lasting loving relationship with our spouse .... :D

Posted by Small Fly on Tue, 11 Jun 2013 at 12:06 PM
What an incredible article.
So young and energetic , no sex for so long, sound like having ED problems.
Perhaps, release or secret cheating on somewhere/someone else!
Impossible,impossible !!.

Ha ha. be real!
Posted by Dragonfly333 on Tue, 11 Jun 2013 at 09:46 AM

With lpcb around scaring away new n old members, sure close down la

VIetnam once a while will come here to bash the sg female dogs
Posted by Mumbucky1 on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 17:43 PM

Business drop.

Where's vietnam guy now?
Posted by Dankoh148 on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 17:13 PM

You dont know? This article proves that all men are faithful.:D
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 17:09 PM

SPatchy no busniess huh?
Posted by Mumbucky1 on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 17:07 PM
How come never mention how many times they PCC themselves in the toilet?

If there's really no SEX elsewhere.
Posted by Dankoh148 on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 16:23 PM
You think there are so many local guys to go around them? Tsk! Tsk! Tsk!
Posted by mystrawberry on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 16:20 PM
For a island so small to have so much Vice from geylang to hougang there are millions of faithful guys in SG.. who are madly in love with their wives but they just don't have sex together.:D
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 15:46 PM


The guys who always said wife must give sex are sitting in a corner and diam diam already.
Posted by mikuhatsune on Mon, 10 Jun 2013 at 15:45 PM


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