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Are fame and money babe magnets?
by Skilldo

The Jack Neo scandal may be a lesson in what not to do when you’re a married man. But there are some tips we can all take away from this episode when it comes to the game of seduction.

I’m sure one of the few reactions to the news of Jack Neo and those 11 women – which may or may not be true – is this: Is the guy really that hot with girls? Or maybe he’s just using money and the promise of fame to up his appeal factor with those women.

One must admit that a loaded bank account and a status as a famous hotshot director can be quite persuasive. But don’t believe that girls will only be attracted to a guy if he has money.

Let’s put it this way: there are some rich guys who get the girls, but there are also the average working-class Joes who can find themselves girlfriends too.

And let’s remember this, sending 30 sms-es to a woman who’s not interested in you is not the way to win a girl’s heart.
So money and fame are NOT the only two tools to make women go gaga over men.

And here is something else worth noting- all the men I know who constantly complain that girls just don’t give them a second look because they are not rich are still single and date-less to this day.

Why? (And it's not because they aren’t loaded)

But the main reason is they have already made up their minds that girls will not like them. And so, they have stopped looking for ways to make women attracted to them.

These men never realised there are tons of examples of men who have experienced success with the ladies through skills rather than by flashing their wallets.

The bottomline here is that money is something external, but an attractive masculine personality is something internal.

So a guy has basically given up on himself by thinking that he can get girls only with an external factor rather than using his internal resource to appeal to girls.

And here’s another reaction to consider when regarding this "Jack Neo saga" – it’s not that shocking after all.
While my girlfriend and her mother were outraged that a family man who has a successful, high-flying career could do something so illogical as to betray his family, I thought it was not surprising.

And you wouldn’t be surprised too when you understand this – when you find yourself attracted to someone, there's little chance for you to be logical about it.

Your emotional side takes over and the logical part has no say about it. You do things that the "normal you" wouldn't. The same goes for women. In fact, this applies to them even more since they are the more attuned to their emotional side.

It's why some girls can fall head over heels in love for a man in spite of obstacles, such as knowing he's already married, parental objections, and even if he is not the usual type of guy she dates.

I'm not saying it is wrong or right. That’s just the way it is. A woman who is attracted to a man won't "consider" too many things. She will just listen to her heart.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

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