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Handling the fear of rejection
by Skilldo

Let's begin with a question - “What are some factors that prevent men from attracting women?”

Make a list of your answers and check them against those of your friends. I can say for certain that there's a common thread here - the fear of rejection.

By rejection, I mean how some men are afraid of being given the cold shoulder by the woman at the various stages of courtship, from the initial approach, or when you are getting psyched to ask her out on the first date, to asking her to be your girlfriend.

And when this fear manifests itself, attempts to move the relationship on to the next level become reduced.

Let's see how we can handle our fear of rejection, beginning with understanding how it is being
generally defined in the dating game.

Most men would take rejection to be similar as being refused.

That itelf is not so bad. The bad part is when men allow the meaning to overwhelm them and subsequently, they foresee the same results when they are faced with the next dating scenario, sometimes even before they have attempted to make a move with a woman.

 But men who have a way with the ladies, tend not to accept this meaning of rejection.

If they do get the brush-off from a lady, they see it as a good opportunity to work their charms on another female.

So, they don't believe in being rejected. Rather, these men give themselves permission to interact with women to see who enjoys their company, and who doesn't.

And they do not make assumptions that they will be rejected by the next girl, because frankly, no one can say what will happen until after the attempt is made.

So, handling rejection from the girl positively starts from changing your idea of what rejection means.

Remember, it's the golden ticket to interact with the next girl.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -


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