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Without sex, will husband fool around?


My husband and I are both in our early 60s. We’ve been married almost 40 years now and have three professional and married children who have all left the nest.

I think we are happily married—even without sex anymore. Though he has diabetes, he has maintained his youthful good looks. Unlike me.

Although I am quite healthy and don’t take maintenance medicines, I have grown overweight over the years. He seems not to care and has remained very thoughtful and honest, and I am blessed having him.

My problem is my friends who are constantly telling me that without sex, my husband would be prone to fooling around, if he isn’t already.

Despite their gossiping about my marriage, I tend to believe my husband because he hasn’t given me any reason to suspect him, except that we haven’t had sex in ages.

It doesn’t bother me and it doesn’t bother him either, I think. We have separate bedrooms because he snores like a train. Sleeping separately has solved the noise problem once and for all.

I know where every penny of his salary goes, I know his password in his e-mail address, his cell phone is always lying around in the open, he allows me to meet him a few times a week in his office for our dinner after work—how can I worry about him philandering? Do my friends know something I don’t?


If it ain’t broke, why fix it! Who are these bunch of unhappy women you’re friends with? Is their analysis or suspicion of your marriage a reflection of the trouble they’re having with their own husbands? Have you been bragging about your blissful marital status that’s making them gang up on you?

That you and your husband already enjoyed a fulfilling romp in bed in your younger days—which is probably more than they’ve ever had—is no reason at all for alarm between you two. The fact that you’re having a wonderful weekly routine with him speaks volumes of your healthy relationship.

Stop being shaken or stirred by the empty gossip from your so-called friends. Let them discuss their lives and problems till they grow feathers, but steer the conversation away when they shift the focus on you.

Just enjoy the food during your lunch with them and block out the chatter. Or, if their company has become a pain, feign a headache, or do your errands instead, or tell it to their faces that you don’t want to be part of that group anymore.

Avoid their gloom and doom. Life is too short to bear meddlers who don’t contribute inspiration or hope or joy to your day.


readers' comments
Seems like need to learn English too...
But it is ok... I could picture you speaking liddat...

Posted by roadrunerboi on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:22 PM

U guys will nv get it!!!
Posted by mumbucky1 on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:21 PM

Sorry we sg female have women chapter n AWARE to back us up,
Kana red handed u divorce I also win!! Nw we sg female can wack policeman n steal things without goin prison or fine, somemore we will be reward by law for cheating....U cannot do anything to us

Oh we sg female nv cheat n we r independent
Posted by mumbucky1 on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:20 PM

If all think like u then it would be more looking for foreign wives leh...

Your logic got bungled up .... Probably to uptight on this topic :cool:
Posted by tmfoo888 on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:19 PM

Reasoning n talking logic to women n wimps r useless.

Must let them taste their own medicine.
Posted by mumbucky1 on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:17 PM


You damn good hor!! Without exportset around, you can still can act solo.:D
Posted by goondoon on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:15 PM

Most sg female think like me so nw u can see less sg guys r looking for foreign wives ma
Posted by mumbucky1 on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:13 PM

So you better dont get caught.:D
Posted by goondoon on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:13 PM

Its not that bro... all these real pitiful women come and voice their aggression here... obviously indicating that they have been burnt before...

My point is simple... if you view its just a Game, there is less chance of getting burnt. Its just emotions. Does it hurt? Sure it does... but a day (or hour) or 2 later, you will find another willing-conquest... so just move on...

And no one every bitches if the female-side wanna play... by all means...

The point is...whoever gets caught first looses the upper hand in ANY (legal or otherwise) negotiations... so... DONT GET CAUGHT!

Practice practice practice... safe sex especially!

Posted by roadrunerboi on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:11 PM

Why you bother about how this small girl says. :D
Posted by goondoon on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 at 17:05 PM

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