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One in two singles prefer their dating partners to have prior sexual experience
by Janice Tai

One in two singles prefer their dating partners to have prior sexual experience and are in favour of living together before getting married.

These were some of the findings of an online survey involving 572 singles conducted by eSynchrony, an online matching service under the LunchActually group, one of the leading dating agencies here.

"These findings show that as much as our society is generally conservative, we are seeing a gradual shift in openness towards sex and marriage," said Ms Violet Lim, chief executive of Lunch Actually and eSynchrony.

The survey, which was conducted last month, posed questions to the singles to find out about their sexual attitudes, and views on family and children.

"We were seeing seemingly compatible couples eventually splitting and realised that couples are more likely to stay together if they agree on more intimate and longer-term concerns," said Ms Lim.

The problem was, she added, that singles were too shy to delve into these private and sensitive issues during the early stages of dating.

Almost all of the 572 singles surveyed said they wanted to know about their potential partners' views on sex, family and marriage. Thus, on the back of this survey, the dating agency intends to roll out a new matching system that aims to better match singles who have similar views and attitudes on sex, marriage and families.

"It pairs individuals who may not seem compatible by conventional rules, but are ideal for each other based on important issues concerning sex and marriage," said Ms Lim.

"This saves a great deal of time and heartache and minimises the chances of couples going separate ways," she added.

Ms Jamie Nan, 33, a business development executive who is currently single, said: "It is good to have a service which doesn't just match you superficially with someone who looks good, but (who) shares similar values on sex and marriage."

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readers' comments

The right word for it is "cohabitation" and it is actually quite common even in Conservative Beijing, China today....
Posted by kooldog59 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 15:35 PM
there's an old saying which fit the new facebook generation 打铁要趁热, if you feel good about the person , then go for it, a lot of relationship start not by having 1 meal or 1 movie, it happened in bed, s*x first slowly blossom to love and companionship ....
is different from old timer, both side parents happy, then get married, then s*x is the reverse
Posted by jameslee58 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 14:53 PM
No wonder married man in high demand.:D

SOT good example.
Posted by Dankoh148 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 14:49 PM
Lucky U not teacher teaching sex education ... if not sure sabo alot of people ... :D :D :D

Posted by Small Fly on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 14:43 PM
no matter what...have sex before or after marriage.....everything is ok so long as different gender! ...hahhaa
Posted by jamespiak on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 14:18 PM
。。。a lot of 40ish 老处女 will have hard time to find mate in that case ...
Posted by jameslee58 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 13:32 PM

Under aged?....Then send father to jail plus canning lor....:D
Posted by kooldog59 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 12:35 PM

papa, your daughter underage le, please please... :(
Posted by emosilver on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 11:25 AM

Girls usually go clubs and hook up. After a few drinks every men looks the same.
Posted by PowerPeople on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 11:19 AM

But I thought that Geylang, Joo Chiat, etc are for the males, so where do our females go to get experience?....also Geylang, Joo Chiat and etc, etc by playing the harlot?....:D:D:D
Posted by kooldog59 on Mon, 24 Feb 2014 at 11:00 AM

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