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I gave my girlfriend permission to flirt with guys
by Letter to Thelma

MY girlfriend and I are in university and have been living together since we started our relationship last February.

For the past year, we have argued about many things, but managed to overcome each problem. Our relationship finally became stable this year.

However, two months ago we started the new university semester and she said she needed more friends so I let her spend more time with her friends during the day. Then she found out that one of them liked her.

She asked my permission to flirt with him and I allowed it because she said it was just for fun. Before the mid-term break, she spent all her time with her friends during the day, and at night, she spent most of the time on MSN. I didn’t think it was a big deal.

But after the break, she changed. She spoke and acted differently and I noticed that she was getting more into the guy she flirted with. I scolded her but things are still the same.

When we first went out, she said my only weakness was that I wasn’t rich. This year, I had extra money from a study loan, and used it to buy all the things she wanted. But she used them to show off and flirt.

We’re now just good friends and she promised to get back with me after she has thought about it. I can see she doesn’t mean it. I love her so much and have given up everything for her. But she treats love like a toy to make her happy.

So, now I want to teach her a lesson, so that she will wake up and realise that what she’s doing is wrong. I want her to lose everything, to suffer and to feel what it means to have her heart broken. But I will be there for her when she collapses.

What can I do to wake her up?


Response from Thelma:

YOU can’t change your gal. You cannot make her appreciate you by wanting her to lose everything, to suffer and feel what love is.

Your girlfriend is not in love with you. She wants to have a good time, flirt with guys and string you along. If you are fool enough to accept her wild ways and allow her to spend your money, then who’s to blame?

You are a willing partner and she is only too happy to take advantage of your generosity. Setting a trap so as to be the hero does not mean she will shower gratitude and love on you. Do not play mind games. You will end up the loser.

Free yourself from this emotional tangle, concentrate on your studies and find a girl who does not have a roving heart.



readers' comments

:eek: YAKS ! Meeting with a :( Greatest PIMP or GIGOLO on Earth liken DG. Is she 'FUN' to play around, then 'DUMP' her for others ?
You are the most MEAN Fellow :
- First, :confused: you don't enjoy her company ! [She is a numb-skull idiot with IQ=10];
- Second, :o you have betrayed others to sucks her, knowing of her deficiency !;
- Third, :mad: if I ever meet you, I will bring you for more :rolleyes: 'pleasurable' places [anywhere - Geylang or Desker Rd] to let you 'Poke' until you drop :D DEAD ! Having :p AIDS [not for your bursary loan but your LIFE ! Most WELCOME Sucker ! OK ?
Posted by yfk51 on Mon, 19 Oct 2009 at 11:16 AM
Nothing wrong....just long as you protect your assets/monies (don't let her cheat you)....any excess $$$ can f around....even sit down and watch you girl scr.ewed by a man/men during her birthday party...

That is the new world....
Posted by Little_GreenDOT on Mon, 19 Oct 2009 at 00:44 AM
Wow, this has sucker writtern all over it...did you get any pleasure out of her?
I hope you did or you are really sucker multiply by 2. Its like paying a ***** but no know what.

Well, you can get back at your ex...but I think you are better off following the advice above and cut off any contact with her, judging from the fact that you cannot even control her then.
Posted by lEtS_G0!!! on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 22:25 PM
You are in university, but I'm afraid you are not very smart. Do you think you are going to be in a stable relationship with a woman like that? You use money from a study loan (that you have to pay back, with interest) to keep her interested. Study loan, not scholarship. Not money-smart either. Dear me... Please... you can take charge of this situation, and take back control of your life. Cut her loose, you owe it to yourself to make a correct decision. Sorry for my harsh words - don't spiral any deeper - you can still get out!
Posted by observasian on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 21:30 PM
Screw her & just dump her lor...
If not sooner or later he will get AIDS from her
Posted by jacksons on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 18:07 PM
everyone lose things sometimes, dont bother getting them back, instead find new and better ones worthy of you.prove it to her that without her your live will be better.
Posted by iamterter on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 17:56 PM
thelma is right.

as a mature man, you must let go and let live.

if you give an eye for an eye, it will never end and it could be a no 'win-win' for both sides.

let these little ones play among themselves.
you move on, my friend.
Posted by thebusinesstimes on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 17:25 PM
University student gave his girlfriend money he had in excess from a study loan to buy all she wanted, but she used them to show off and flirt.
View the article here.
Posted by A1Team on Sun, 18 Oct 2009 at 16:59 PM

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