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Your 2010 Masterplan to meet & date
by Skilldo

2009 is history.

With 2010 here, you might still be wrapped up in the high of New Year celebrations.

Still, I have to ask you one tough question for you.

Did you have your desired outcome when it comes to women and dating?

If your answer is yes, sweet!

But if there's still struggles in that area, I believe your intention is to make things different this year.

So before you even scribble anything about dating women in your New Year resolution, here's a warning for you.

I came across a piece of news which stated that most people would forget the resolutions they set for themselves when March comes along, talk about accomplishing that resolution.

Here's my take on New Year resolutions: It loses its effectiveness because a resolution is just a 'plain statement'.

Consider these:

"I want to date 3 times more women this year."

"I decide to get a super-gorgeous girlfriend who is also intelligent."

"I commit to approach more gals in 2009."

What's wrong with the above?

For a start, they lack some type of "support structure" to pull them off successfully.

Such a resolution is just a plain statement, not a plan.

It's like a skeleton, but with no muscles or blood to ensure it functions properly.

Which is why I recommend that we all have a "masterplan" instead of using a tired old resolution.

By the way, a "masterplan" doesn't need to be fancy. It simply involves answering 3 critical questions:

1) What do I want to accomplish in my dating life in the first 90 days of 2010?

2) What skills do I need to acquire in order to make what I want happen?

3) What excuses do I need to stop making?

You probably noticed the masterplan is focused around the first 90 days of 2010.


Simply because - if you don't operate within a timeframe (90 days), we will start to think that there's a lot of time on our hands to play with. It is easy to think, "Nah, I'll do it next time; I have the whole year ahead of me!"

Here are some models of masterplans:

1) "By the end of the first 90 days of 2010, I would accomplish meeting and casually dating 10 women, and choose among them who would make a supportive beautiful girlfriend who enjoys a fun, spontaneous lifestyle with me."

2) "I will need to improve my skills on chatting women up smoothly. So each time I talk to a woman I fancy, she can be intrigued by my ability to hold a conversation and stir interest in her. This would further increases my chance of progressing to the next stage, from a meet-up to bring her out on dates. I also need to acquire skills to rid the fear of approaching women."

3)"Whether is it in getting the relevant skills or talking to women, I need to stop telling myself, 'I'll do it in future' or 'I'll do it next week.' I need to stop lying to myself that it's alright to postpone or not do anything."

Right now, insert your own inputs and create a masterplan.

The message is, make 2010 the year where you won't allow yourself to 'sweep things under the carpet'.

Make this the year where you had a plan to achieve your desired outcome with women here in Singapore.


About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

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