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I slept with a groupie
by Rohaizatul Azhar


As an entertainer, I’ve always had many female fans or, as the industry calls them, groupies.

Two years ago, a female fan started showing up at every performance.

After two months of seeing her in the crowd, I went over after a performance to talk to her.

She was 23 when we met. Slim and slender, she was sexier and more attractive than my girlfriend was.

We started talking and exchanged phone numbers. At that time, I was in a committed relationship with my girlfriend of three years.

I started hanging out more often with the woman and we became fast friends. I even introduced her to my girlfriend.

It was not until a year ago that things started to get complicated.

After a night out drinking with our friends, I took her home as she was feeling tipsy. She invited me in.

We started talking and drinking more.

One thing led to another and I ended up spending the night.

I was guilt-stricken the next day and we decided to cool things off.

However, I realised that I had started to develop feelings for her.

My girlfriend is great but had wanted to save herself for marriage.

We had promised each other that we’d wait before we have sex.

The other woman was readily available and staying away from sex was harder than I’d imagined.

Being with her was always about sex. We would meet up about three times a week on the pretext of hanging out or going for dinner.

I didn’t think much about it because I was not in love with her.

I love my girlfriend. I just found it hard to curb my physical needs.

We continued our affair for about a year. My friends started to notice that I was spending a lot of time with her and confronted me.

I never admitted that I was sleeping with her.

Even my girlfriend noticed the change in my behaviour. I had stopped calling her at night after my shows – something I always did before the affair.

It was not till three months ago that I finally realised that what I was doing was not healthy for my relationship.

My girlfriend and I were moving on to another stage and I saw myself wanting to spend my life with her.

The other woman and I talked about our affair and where it was going.

We both agreed that the attraction was purely physical and nothing more could develop from it.

She knows how much I adore my girlfriend.

Slowly, we stopped seeing each other and she decided to stop coming for my shows so often. I ended things after a while.

About two months ago, I proposed to my girlfriend.

She still has no clue about the affair and I don’t think I will ever tell her about it.

I love her too much to see her hurt by my irresponsible actions.

Will I stray again?

I’m not sure I can answer that question for certain.

I cannot control the future but I can say that I will try not to place myself in such compromising situations again.

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readers' comments
I hope this is not another showie guy on the blog trying to tell everyone how great a person he is or has been. If you love a person deep enough (as claimed to love her so much) how can you 'sleep' with another girl??
Have guts, tell us your real name please.
Posted by DuLichDat on Wed, 20 Jan 2010 at 14:24 PM
yea, cool it! nothing can be guarantee in this world, be it promises or marriage vow. u just have to get relationship work out or let it go. stop blaming each other abt 3rd party screwing yr gf/bf or spouse. just screw back.

maybe earthquake will come to sg and we will be all dead, no more screwing each other. problem solve.
Posted by broken.arrow on Wed, 20 Jan 2010 at 14:10 PM
This is only the beginning, and not the end. After marrying your GF whom you have never test drove before, you find that her bed skills does not satisfy your needs. You will start to think about the other lady and the way she could satisfy you. Soon you will stray again and making things even worse, coz now you will make your GF/wife a divorcee. If you do not buy a car before test drive, let alone marriage which is a lifetime commitment.
Posted by Silver_Zx on Wed, 20 Jan 2010 at 09:47 AM
Ladies, cool it...........FYI, I was screwing his GF.
Posted by skyglobal on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 23:15 PM
Wonder what the reasons are for publicising all this kind of stories!
Trying to tell the world that Singaporeans are far more open than any other human race on the planet called earth!
Or is that there is no other news that could be reported or not to be reported?
Totally numb skull!
Posted by Superidiot on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 22:34 PM
Can we honestly say with certainty that we will never stray if the opportunity presents itself? If you have the ring of gyges what would you have done? If I'm honest, I'll say I'm not sure.
Posted by people on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 19:21 PM
you are a POS. I hope your fiance reads this and starts to SUSPECT the dog in this story is you. You cant even lie properly:
a) In one sentence, you write "However, I realised that I had started to develop feelings for her." A few lines later, you say this: "Being with her was always about sex. [....]I didn’t think much about it because I was not in love with her."


b) You wrote: "My girlfriend is great but had wanted to save herself for marriage. We had promised each other that we’d wait before we have sex." You made a promise to your fiance and consciously agreed to the abstinence and now it's a "BUT" and your excuse for cheating?? WHAT A JERK. If you had needed sex, the 1st person you should have approached was your gf. You should .....
Posted by ilovetemaki on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 15:40 PM
Chill out, ladies. **** happens. Stop making a big deal out of it.
Posted by boeing767 on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 15:11 PM
I agree! Sob sob, what has the world come to. Abstinence rawks \m/

Btw, it's not called "love" if you have an affair behind your gf back.
Posted by Nobizuka on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 14:48 PM
I agree with "felanjhi" that you would most likely stray again. To say that you "cannot control the future" means that you are not firm enough to say "no". As an entertainer, you will always be surrounded by your fans and it would be interesting to see how you can try not to put yourself in such compromising situations again. Well, we wont be "there" to judge. You are a dishonest person who has not come out clean with your affair with your fiancee and to say that you deeply love her and yet have an affair because of your physical needs is simply bullshit. Try giving that excuse to her and see whether she will accept it. Why not tell your fiancee that you cannot resist the temptation of sleeping with her to satisfy it instead? It would be fair if your fiancee sleeps with another man. Then, it .....
Posted by malinablu on Tue, 19 Jan 2010 at 14:20 PM

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