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Four ways to get the girl
by Skilldo

Still looking for success with the ladies? Here are four tips to help you achieve that goal.

Do be prepared though, that they may go against your conventional beliefs about dating:

Tip 1:
"Any undesired response from a woman is a perfect opportunity to turn the situation in your favour"

You often get responses from a woman that can throw you off. For instance, she may be treating like an old friend one moment, then giving you the cold shoulder in the next. Or it could be uninterested replies or difficult questions.

These are nothing more than 'checks' that she has set to see if a guy can 'stay the course'.

If a guy becomes spiteful or nervous when faced with these 'checks', then he loses credibility with the lady. But if he maintained his cool and can even exhibit a degree of humour when faced with these difficulties, the lady's respect for him will increase.

The thing to remember is - such negative responses from women will happen. Be glad that they do, because that gives you a chance to show how cool you can be under pressure.

Tip 2:
"What 9 out of 10 men in Singapore are doing with women, make sure you do the opposite"

A mentor once said to me: "Most guys do things that slow down their progress with women. Things can be hastened, but the problem is when a person is too set in his ways, even if it is wrong or does not produce results quick enough, he'll think that is the 'only way' to do it."

You get average results when you follow the masses.

If you observe carefully, only a small number of men in Singapore have got for himself the woman he really wants, or is living a dating lifestyle he set out to have.

Do you think they followed and did what the crowd does?

Absolutely not.

Being "attractively uncommon" requires stepping into the unknown and casting off old practices.

Tip 3: "Buying gifts won't work if she isn't attracted to you in the first place"

You cannot buy your way into a girl's heart, so no amount of gifts, even how expensive they are, will get her to desire you.

Besides, if for any reason you are required, or worse, she demands that you buy her gifts, something is wrong.

Pushing a woman's emotional triggers to get her to like you cannot be done through your wallet. Instead, think how to make her attracted to your 'masculine personality' and connect to you through interaction with her.

And in the situation that she is head-over-heels attracted to you, gifts for the lady are optional - she likes you already.

Tip 4: "Those who succeed with women are the ones who over-read their signals"

This may sound counter-intuitive, but the most common characteristics in men who are able to successfully approach women and end up with more dates are the ones who don't look too much for signs that the woman is attracted to them, or put off by them.

They just act confidently and swiftly.

In a scenario where the man decides he is interested in getting to know a woman, he doesn't wait for her to smile at him or flip her hair in his direction before walking up to her.

It just takes too long, and the lady would most likely have walked off first.

Same thing if you intend to ask a woman out on a date. Don't try to second-guess that she may be interested in going out with you. Instead, get her to go out with you first, then ignite and intensify her interest.

You are better off giving yourself an opportunity to take action, rather than wait for her to signal her interest in you.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

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