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"My husband arranged for his mistress' abortion in front of me"
by Azlinda Said

For over a decade, Susan*, now in her 50s, endured living with a husband who constantly cheated on her. He even paraded his infidelities at home. She tells her story to Azlinda Said.

"After tying the knot, I gave up my partying ways and even quit my job to be a stay-at-home mum. But Jack*, who became the sole breadwinner, continued leading a bachelor's life, staying out late almost every night even after our children were born.

Just after my first child was born, I began getting phone calls at home from women looking for Jack. I also found condoms in his bag around the time I got pregnant - it was proof he was having sex outside of our marriage.

Soon after our fourth child was born, Tina* entered the picture. It was my 40th birthday and Jack took me to his favourite club to celebrate. There, we ran into Tina.

Jack told me he had met Tina through work. I was instantly suspicious as they worked in unrelated industries. And even though she was married, I suspected she was having an affair with my husband from the way they behaved around each other.

A few months after I met Tina, Jack asked me where he could buy a pregnancy test kit and if I knew of any abortion clinics. He claimed he was helping a colleague.

When I said I didn't believe him, he told me not to make a mountain out of a molehill. He then called a random clinic from the telephone directory and made an appointment with them - with me in the room.

I was so angry and kept pushing the matter, but finally dropped it when he walked away from me. I never brought up the subject again as I knew it was pointless - he would only accuse me of trying to hurt his image and shame him."

*not their real names


Get the March 2012 issue of Simply Her for more interesting stories. Simply Her, published by SPH Magazines is available at all newsstands now.

Azlinda Said is a senior features writer with Simply Her magazine by SPH Magazines.

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readers' comments
I read this long and juicy article at a hair salon during lunch time yesterday. It is actually Feb 2012 issue Simply Her. What a sad story. She is a superwoman to cope with husband infidelity and brought up her 4 children on her own. In the end, they divorce and she has to do part time cleaning jobs while taking care of 4 children as ex-husband sometimes default on her monthly allowances.

I really admired her strength and perservance, without a career or stable income, she dare to divorce. Her husband eventually marry someone else that is not the lover that broke up their marriage.
Posted by marinalink on Thu, 29 Mar 2012 at 09:55 AM

All the women in the forum ARE 100% correct...

However...for every one of these "100% correct" ones, there are 10 others who will knowing OR unknowing partake in the Game...

And... so... the Party continues...
Posted by roadrunerboi on Thu, 29 Mar 2012 at 09:37 AM

I fully agreed with you on that senstence in bold.

It is a gentlemen way of handle ones affairs and it is a right way.

I like your character.

Btw, are u married??

Posted by lao.leeky on Thu, 29 Mar 2012 at 00:14 AM

Guess your colleague must have a hard time to make his message clear or could it be that you can't grasp his meaning??

My advice, if you do care to help this good colleague of yours, is to tell him that instead of "Ni Ming Pei Ma" (do you understand in Cantonese).
I suggested he change to "TUBE NEI" in cantonese.
I assured you that he will make sure all of you understood him leh



Btw, isn't you also can sing until the birds drop-dead without firing a single gun-powder???


Excuse me for laughing. OK??

Posted by lao.leeky on Thu, 29 Mar 2012 at 00:10 AM
Get your husband to sit and hell with him... also as a woman how can you stand it , does not make sense.
Posted by jopiemalay on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 11:42 AM
You should divorce with him.
Posted by fredia123 on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 10:22 AM

I like it... do it... DO IT!

At least you and I have one thing in common... we're consistent...

Posted by roadrunerboi on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 09:20 AM

Are you sure? I have friends whose GF zao sai, jilted them or a rich guy. So what do you say? Cut of their bre*sts?????????
Posted by exportset23 on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 09:20 AM

Sorry buddy, I doesnt meant to be funny lah.

It suddenly reminds me one of my colleague.
Nobody really likes him.
But he loves to use this sentences whenever he finish finish speaking.

"Ni Ming Pei Ma?"

And he is the one who will always argue even though he is wrong. Can make a bird come down from the tree too.

Whenever he said Ni Ming Pei Ma? My colleagues always shake thie head, making him even more wanting to explain.
Posted by hfourhappy on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 09:18 AM

Being "deserving" of something and actually having it happen... many times... very unlikely...

E.g. I deserve a Ferrari, I only have a C65...

Perhaps you'd understand this better... I deserve to be castrated but it has not happened...

And your follow up comment, if the wives are arranging the castration... why would they need to have it done over the phone... wont they be there to witness it?

Not going to happen lah... chill chill...
Posted by roadrunerboi on Wed, 28 Mar 2012 at 09:17 AM

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