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Dad is a hopeless womanizer
by Emily A. Marcelo


My father has been a womanizer since forever, but my mother had no concrete proof.

With the accessibility of the cell phone, she was able to catch him in flagrante delicto with a married woman we thought was a friend.

I was so pissed at my mother for not showing her anger at that moment.

She was badly hurt, so I talked to my father about it, and he just said, "It's been over a long time ago."

I thought he would be faithful to my mom after that, but we found out that he was having a simultaneous affair with another married woman with two kids who is 28 years his junior.

Their affair has been an open secret in their office, with the woman's husband working in a building just a few meters away.

My mother never confronted my dad about his philandering. She just made side comments and sent text messages, which she thought would wake him up.

One time she left the house without any of us knowing where she went.

My mother's pain has affected her health. She had a heart attack six months ago upon learning that the young woman and my dad checked into a motel. She's lucky she was brought to the hospital in time.

My father is now retired, yet this woman keeps calling, texting and "borrowing" money from him.

The thing is, my father believes it's "normal" for a man to have affairs as long as he does not abandon his family.

I am thinking of having a sisterly talk with this woman who is younger than I am, to hopefully awaken her conscience.

Concerned Daughter

When you say in flagrante delicto, you do know that it means "in the midst of sexual activity?"

Did your mother just stand there and watch?

Couldn't she have thrown a table at them or raised the house from the ground with her bare hands? Was she in a coma at the time?

Sleepwalking, perhaps?

Wow, she certainly didn't act like a normal wife, considering the circumstances!

This whole drama is actually between your parents and nobody else, since you're all grown children now.

You can confront your father and scold him until you grow feathers, but as you already noted, he has this distorted belief that he can do whatever he wants to do below his belt, as long as he doesn't abandon his family.

Take the high road and do not have anything to do with this woman or the others he may be seeing. It's your father you should focus your ire on.

You may put an end to this affair, but how about the next, and the next, and the next, ad nauseum?

He has money-the aphrodisiac and magnet to many women!

If he has been doing this since you can't remember when, then be assured he will be doing this till his last breath.

Convince your mother to have a life of her own and start enjoying other activities, with or without her husband, who is killing her slowly.

After this last heart attack, fate could be telling her to let go of her attachment to him without ifs and buts, and take hold of the life remaining in her.

She should remember that this incorrigible husband will not be joining her in the box, no matter how much love she had shown him all their life.

She'll go on being alone for all eternity, with not even the flimsy hope of him looking for her.

Wake her, shake her, make her come to her senses, to take control of her life for a change, and to love herself more this time, no matter how late in the day it is.

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readers' comments

Wow! Very impressive hor??

That is why I always say that you are on the look up for charbors here in A1 forum lah.

Why you always go for charbors??
Do you think you can do 62 men's job???


Why don't you ask your NJ wife first before you keep stalking and chasing and tackling all the charbors???

Posted by streetsmartfighter on Fri, 6 Apr 2012 at 11:52 AM

Can you elaborate on those words in bold? Who is that forummer? Do you love the Chabors' Charter? Are you a chabor?.
Posted by smickno on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 10:27 AM
Till Death Do We Part.
Posted by davteo5 on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 09:56 AM
Which dad is not a womanizer? It is the extend of his womanizing to whether he is control of his philandering ways.
Posted by seekeroftruth on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 09:46 AM

I Goondoon not clown.:mad::D
Posted by goondoon on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 09:11 AM

Can you help me to convince her???

Thk u.

Posted by streetsmartfighter on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 08:39 AM
Get your mum away from the useless father and set up a separate life. Let him decide who he wants. Convince your mum she has to focus on leading life for herself, not the scumbag she married.

After that, what will be, will be. Men of these kind are not worth getting sickness or dying for.
Posted by onevoice on Thu, 5 Apr 2012 at 06:21 AM

why don't you divorce're covered by the charbor charter isn't one forumer hated so'll die earlier than why not take half your share before you die..

if your husband is a sporean then you must be a FTrash malaysian!!!
Posted by hehehehahaha on Wed, 4 Apr 2012 at 23:16 PM
oh...same to me...i have a husband who is singaporean...he is a womenizer,a gambller..and somemore he is a christian (BAPTIST) can he do like this!!!...i a sick women with high blood,cancer.heart care for me....walau..what husband i have...can someone teach how to do..or do i need to take legal action !!! ...i'm hopless..
Posted by letbehonest on Wed, 4 Apr 2012 at 11:46 AM

How long did the doctors say you can live? Does it make sense for someone who is dying to even consider taking legal action?

I would expect you to be more worried about what/where/how you will be in the other world, than being interested to know 'how to take legal actions' to claim chaborlimony from him after a divorce decree nisi is made absolute on your deathbed.

If you have to troll, do it a bit smarter, please.
Posted by smickno on Wed, 4 Apr 2012 at 11:42 AM

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