The past few months, my husband has been being cold and distant towards me.

He gets angry easily and thinks he is great. Everything I do or say seems to be wrong.

Every time I confront him, he cuts me off or asks why I want to pick a fight.

We are always arguing and can't seem to sit and talk.

Because of this, we do our own things and don't talk much at home.

If at all we go out with our children, we end up fighting and the whole outing is spoiled.

When we're out, he talks loudly to me and scolds and stares at me in public.

I have dignity and don't deserve to be treated this way.

Sometimes I don't feel like going out with him, but I have no one else.

He's supposed to be the one to share my feelings with, and to do things together with, as a family.

He always says I am to blame and should change, not him.

I'm a person who does not keep quiet; if I need to make a stand, I will.

I am mentally and emotionally disturbed. He doesn't understand that he is the one who makes me angry, and is the cause of everything. He seems not bothered by my actions.

Emotional Wife

When people have problems in their relationships they tend to stop talking to each other.

They think that will solve the problem. Or, maybe they think that ignoring the person means ignoring the problem.

This may work for a while but in the long run, it will do more damage than a bull in a china shop.

One of the biggest causes of problems in a relationship is poor communication or a complete breakdown in communication.

Many people think that communicating means being able to talk to each other and telling each other what they want, when they want. This is a fallacy.

Good communication includes communicating effectively, and listening.

There are also aspects like body language, tone of speech, knowing when to say the right thing, or when you have said the wrong thing, and being gracious.

I am not saying you are not practising all this. But this may be missing, or faulty, in your relationship.

From the way you have described your husband, I can sense your anxiety and tension.

Chances are, so can he. And probably your children, too.

It may be worthwhile to try marriage counselling if you want to save your relationship. Your husband must agree to this, though.

If he does not, it may not hurt for you to go for counselling on your own.

It may help you address some of the stress you are experiencing and help you see things from a different perspective.

That will give you new insights into yourself and your relationship.

Many private and public hospitals and counselling centres have counsellors and psychologists.

What's different is the amount they charge and you may have to look around for a rate that suits you.

But in choosing your counsellor, don't let finance alone dictate your decision.

Make sure you are comfortable with him/her. Do not be afraid to ask questions.