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Six months pregnant with lover's child
by Cheryl Leong

A few months after our divorce, Lisa told me she was taking Elaine on holiday with her parents. I thought it would do our daughter good and I gave my blessings.

I missed Elaine terribly and I wanted to spend some time with her when she got home, so I went to pick her up at the airport.

But I was in for a rude shock – Lisa looked about six months pregnant as she walked out of the arrival hall. The baby couldn’t be mine – we hadn’t had sex for months before our divorce. Not only that, another man was with them.

Everything clicked then – the late nights, turning off her mobile phone, lying about staying at her mother’s place…

I decided then to fight for sole custody of Elaine. But Lisa wanted sole custody, too.

My lawyer advised me that I had a high risk of losing as custody is usually awarded to the mother. But for Elaine’s sake, I had to try.

Since the incident at the airport, Elaine had been staying with me. Lisa visited her weekly. During one of her visits, when the three of us were at the neighbourhood playground, I noticed a stranger nearby, watching us closely.

Before I could approach the man, Lisa’s father appeared out of the blue and struck me, while the man ran forward to grab Elaine.

Lisa, her father and the man ran off with Elaine and I gave chase. I realised the attack was planned – a taxi was waiting at the main road and Lisa’s mother was in it. I managed to wrest Elaine away from the man and held her tightly as I flagged down another taxi. But Lisa’s party caught up with us and the men beat me up.

Then, they snatched Elaine and left in their cab. Despite being attacked, I never retaliated. I was afraid that if I did, it would harm my case in the custody battle. I thought I would be seen as a fit parent if I wasn’t hot-headed or violent.

Two months later, Lisa was awarded custody of Elaine. This was a huge blow to me. On top of her adultery, her family members had also assaulted me – and I had remained rational and not fought back. I was crushed.

Elaine is a special needs child with hyperlexia – a condition in which she can read and recognise words, but struggles with speech and communication. By the age of four, she still wasn’t talking; she couldn’t express herself if she wanted something, and would scream and point at it instead. 

Saturdays became my appointed time with Elaine. I take her to therapy and to visit the animal farms. Sometimes, I meet up with friends and their young children, so Elaine can learn to mix with other kids. Other times, I take her to the beach, or shopping with my sister and mother.

What I miss most is the simple act of watching Elaine sleep. When she was younger, I used to watch her falling asleep in my arms. It’s painful knowing I can no longer see her whenever I want to.

The divorce has been hard on Elaine. She was confused at the beginning, not knowing which parent she would be spending time with. I don’t have overnight access so it’s heartwrenching for me to leave her.

With regular therapy, Elaine is now able to communicate in simple sentences and words. I hope her condition continues to improve, and that one day, she might even attend a mainstream school and lead a normal life.

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readers' comments
must learn to 潇洒走一回:D

Posted by unemployed777 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 15:58 PM
You have done much for yr marriage,nothing further could be done.Its through and good for you to move on and I am sure you meet someone very much better in the furture.Life are full of risks and you gone thru hell and return.
give yrself a break and forget the past. Your ex-and ex-in laws are good for nothing..blinded and were cheated by her.

You are now out of this useless environment, wishing you the best in future relationship.

Start anew, give ex- the child and you will find much happiness from now on. Move on....God bless.
Posted by Dragonfly333 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 14:35 PM
alamak, you watch the cartoons with your eyes closed izzit,:D

why you think popeye always tackle olive?:cool:

Posted by unemployed777 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:43 AM

I watch so many popeye cartoons. But never once saw any cartoon showed popeye recipe can use as viraga.:eek:

Are we talking about the same popeye?:eek:
Posted by goondoon on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:39 AM
i can manage 10 ok,:D

popeye gave me his secret recipe.:cool:

Posted by unemployed777 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:32 AM

Old man like you still want 3 wifes?:eek:
Posted by goondoon on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:29 AM
one man three wifes,:D

like muslim.:cool:

Posted by unemployed777 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:28 AM
Steady man. Woman charter need to be abolish
Posted by goondoon on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:27 AM
congratulation to the man in shock.

just like terence cao.
Posted by unemployed777 on Wed, 5 Dec 2012 at 11:22 AM

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