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Forget the seven-year itch, the real test comes at twelve years

Seven-years has traditionally been the time when love and affection give way to disillusion and disappointment.

But couples who manage to survive the seven-year itch would be wise not to get complacent.

The biggest threat to modern marriages actually comes from the 12-year itch, research has revealed.

The majority of couples who divorce have now spent more than a decade together before going their separate ways.

And they are increasingly likely to cite 'growing apart' or 'falling out of love' as the cause of their split.

There has been a four-fold increase in couples breaking up for these reasons in the last two years, amid increasing financial strain on families.

But infidelity is still responsible for more than a quarter of divorces. The seven-year itch - or the theory that adultery becomes impossible to resist after seven years - got its name from the 1950s film starring Marilyn Monroe.

The study by the Grant Thornton accountancy group, which was based on a survey of 90 of the country's biggest family law firms, echoed figures released last year which showed that marriages are most likely to fall apart around the 12-year mark.

Sally Longworth, of Grant Thornton's Forensic and Investigation Services, said: 'This rather dispels the age-old myth about marriages failing after seven years.

'It is impossible to put any scientific reasoning on why certain marriages succeed and others fail.'

readers' comments
7 years, 10 years or 15 years, still divorce

western countries, divorce 4,5 times is a norm

i once met my ex-colleague, she very pretty , i called her 'missus tan how are you ? long time no see'
she half jokingly told me 'i'm not missus tan, you may call me missus smithson'

"wah you married ang mo arh ?"

"ya recently only"

"what happen to your ex husband mr tan now ?"

"my ex-husband is mr fong"
"er ?"
"my ex-ex-husband is mr tan"

Posted by jameslee58 on Thu, 22 Jul 2010 at 16:27 PM
Just from my own sensors of both relatives, friends and businessmen in pubs, across the world, the median is definitely 15 years.

This is because most people marry someone of roughly the same age give or take, most people marry at 25 give or take, hence once the woman's eggs slow-off, no need to make love in the woman's mind, and man goes elsewhere.

I am being sincere here and not having a laugh. With the hard work my wife is putting in to her job, and kids, fitting love-making in needs the kids asleep and the weekend to have arrived. But yeah I still do make love at 20 years of marriage.
Posted by Trouser Press on Thu, 22 Jul 2010 at 15:57 PM
Oh yes, not forgetting the 15 years itch and the 25 years itch and the 35 years itch and of course, if you live that long, the 50 years itch, which at that time has mutated from an itch to an irritant.
Posted by Criminalz on Thu, 22 Jul 2010 at 15:44 PM

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