Does this sound familiar to you?

A guy notices that his friends have partners and are actively dating. So, he decides to jazz up his social calendar and get to know more women.

He looks around his immediate social circle - the office - and as it turns out, there is a good looking girl in another department.

He knows he can find an opportunity to speak to her, but when he tries to, fear sets in and he abandons his objective of getting to know the girl.

He tells himself that he can get a chance to get to know her during the company's dinner and dance night.
 
As he waits for the D&D party to roll around, he thinks of another scenario.

This time, it's a chalet which he has been invited to attend. He has gotten to know a friendly and cute girl through his friends at the chalet. They get along like a house on fire, but for some reason, he neglected to get her contact number to keep in touch.

After thinking through it, he is convinced that it is too long to try and contact the girl again. He reasons that they will meet each other again if they are fated to do so.

In the end, he is persuaded to let 'nature take its course' while all around him as he continues to hope that the girl for him will appear, and his friends continue to be dating.

I once heard a saying: "We humans have a huge ability to be unfair to ourselves."

That's right. The person in the example wants a certain outcome, but when the time comes for him to grab it, he then convinces himself not to do it.

He denies himself of the chance to be fair.

Here's a tough question - are you being unfair to yourself?

Do you want to achieve something with women and dating, but when the time comes to get it, you tell yourself: "It's not so important after all"?

If so, it's time to stop being unfair to yourself.

To do that, I'd like to share with you a common characteristic among men who are able to get themselves fantastic girls and satisfying dating lives.

They believed in one word - "more".

This word must be one of the most impactful to ever exist in helping one's social life.

Whatever you want with regards to women and dating, tell yourself to not just get it, but to get more of it.

It could be any of the following:

- More confidence around women
- More dates for the next two months
- More beautiful ladies of high calibre in your social circle

When you aim to have more of what you want, even if you eventually got half of what you aim for, it is better than what the average person is getting.

Over the years, I see it in every man who changed from 'helpless' to major success with women - They have wholeheartedly embraced the concept of wanting more and have never looked back.

So, if you are the type to constantly deny yourself any chances with women, shift your mental gears  and tell yourself to stop denying this minute. You do deserve more and you will have more.

It may seem like a small change, but as you journey along in your dating life, you will avoid a lot of situations where you short-change yourself.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at - http://www.seductionsingapore.com