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So, about last night...
by Jeanne Tai

You hooked up with a friend or a colleague at a party. Now what?

With a friend

The next morning, calmly get dressed and leave. “This shows you’re confident and in control of the situation,” says psychologist Daniel Koh of Insights Mind Centre. “Rushing out flustered can damage your self-esteem and image.”

Tell him you’ll discuss last night when you’re both more settled. “Delaying this gives both of you time to calm down and think things through rationally,” Daniel says.

Figure out why you slept with him. Do you like him and want a relationship? Or was it just a drunken mistake?

Discuss how you both should move forward. Be calm and rational. “If you want something more but he doesn’t, respect that and back off,” says life coach Stephanie Chu of coaching firm Empower.

With a co-worker

Humour helps defuse awkward situations, says clinical psychologist Dr Vanessa von Auer of VA Psychology Centre. “A one-liner like, ‘you should be glad I’m only your colleague, not your boss’ should do the trick.”

Chat about how you both want to move forward. Always maintain a civil and cordial work relationship.

There’s a risk that the guy may blab and “glorify his conquest”, warns May Sng, director of recruitment firm Frontier Executive Search. Minimise the damage – don’t mention your tryst in e-mails or SMSes, which could be leaked and used against you.

You’re not obliged to address office rumours. “What happens outside the office can stay outside,” says Stephanie. Tell rumour-mongers that you don’t like to be gossiped about and that you find it unprofessional.

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I forgot what happened last night. Want a refresher?
Posted by maipenrai on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 18:40 PM

21-12-2012 ,

The End of the World.
news :P

> Nanyang Siang Pau reported that a woman from Hong Kong stocked her house with food and winter clothing to help her family survive the end of the world.

Among the “life-saving items” were 300 rolls of toilet papers, over a thousand litres of bottled water and other beverages, 800 cans of food, 5,000 heat packs, charcoals, 50 boxes of medicine for flu, throat lozenges and a bag of winter clothing.

“My mum said the temperature will drop to below -30°C in the night on doomsday,” said her son, identified only as Chen.

He added that the family would wait at home for the moment to come.
Posted by JanitorPML on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 18:08 PM
Which is why HW is totally garbage ... Only teaches ladies to be materialistic. Buy branded stuff, how to hook a man, blah blah blah ... Particularly in this article, what about the risk? Probably he has STDs, Aids, etc. What about contraception??!! Totally not mentioned and all it cared about is to ... 'Save face from embarassement'??!! Tsk! Tsk! Tsk!
Posted by mystrawberry on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 17:40 PM
Girls just wanna have fund$
Posted by Elements on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 16:17 PM
Yea, I dont like that "Seen it all and grown out of it" talk. You are just justifying yourself on 2 and both accounts. Go to a seminary.
Posted by angmoboho on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 15:56 PM
from my point of view, you are nothing but still a f... Slut !
Slut like you working in the nightlife will not change.So Don't try to be an angel. Slut ! Burn in hell, when your time come!
Posted by Alan1964 on Sat, 22 Dec 2012 at 15:40 PM

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